Consider the following scenario:
Hasan was in third grade when he was caught cheating on his math quiz. He had been doing poorly in math and his parents had threatened that if he didn't raise his grades they wouldn't let him play on the baseball team.
So he cheated. When the teacher asked him about it, he denied it at first, but finally admitted to writing down the answers ahead of time.
A parent conference was called and Hasan had to sit with his parents, the teacher, and the principal to discuss the school policy on cheating and lying.
On the way home, his father told Hasan he was deeply disappointed in him and expected more from him in the future. That night, Hasan felt like the whole world was against him, but he also felt guilty for letting his parents down.
That weekend, Hasan and his family went to a movie. When they got to the ticket window Hasan's dad asked for children's tickets for both Hasan and his 16 year old brother.
Hasan looked over at his brother, who stared down at the sidewalk and hunched his shoulders hoping the ticket seller wouldn't notice that he was well above the age for a child's ticket. The ticket seller glanced suspiciously back and forth between the father and the brother, and then, with a doubtful look on her face, she handed them the two child's tickets.
This happened every time they went to the movies, and it always made Hasan feel weird. On the way home from the movie, Hasan asked his father why it was okay to lie and cheat the theater out of money but not to cheat on his math quiz. His dad responded that sometimes it's okay to lie as long as nobody gets hurt. The rest of the way home Hasan just got more and more confused.
Cheating on his test hurt nobody. He didn't steal the answers from any of the other students. If he hadn't gotten caught, he would have been praised.
How was what he did different from what his dad did over and over again? And should he continue to stay silent the next time his dad lied?
Based on your point of view, answer the following questions:
What is Hasan's dilemma?
Have you ever seen an adult or friend do something you felt wasn't right? What did you do? How did it make you feel?
Do you think Hasan should try to talk to his Dad again about his lying at the movies?
Who might Hasan have hurt by cheating on his quiz?
Hasan's Dad said it was okay to be dishonest if no one was hurt. Who do you think might have been hurt by his lying at the movie ticket office?